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Costa Rican Language of Politeness

October 7, 2017 by Costa Rica Guy 1 Comment

Costa Rican Language of Politeness

Costa Rican society is decidedly polite, especially compared to that of the U.S. It might be the biggest area of culture shock one will experience after being here for a long time and then returning to the U.S. At least that has been my experience.

Now there are exceptions to every rule…

Those exceptions generally apply on the streets, avenues and highways around the country (especially its cities). Just put the most polite tico behind the steering wheel of an automobile and it’s like pouring water on a “gremlin” (you remember those lovable little creatures from that early Spielberg flick?).

Yea, they become little demons hell-bent on destruction.  But for the most part, outside of that environment, politeness rules.

Costa Rican language of politeness.

I am still trying to adapt, because sometimes I just don’t feel like being polite. That’s usually when I’m just too wrapped up in what’s going on in my life at the moment (or in my head) to take the time to try to brighten someone’s day with a simple, disculpe, por favor, or gracias.

Here folks are routinely polite, even when they may not be having the best day. And it’s not as if they’re faking it. The politeness comes natural. In the culture of the U.S., you can readily tell when someone is faking it, can’t you? You know, the so-called “courtesy laugh” at that joke you blew, or the “courtesy smile” when lurking just behind it is seething cynicism.

Now I’m one of those types who tends to wear his emotions on his shirt sleeve. That doesn’t always go over so well in this culture. I’m learning to be polite, because I admit I’m not naturally so, as any of my tico friends would attest. I’m polite when and if I feel like it. The Spanish language of politeness does not roll off the tip of my tongue as easily as…

Gimme 20 of super…and check the oil while you’re at it!

Learning the Costa Rican language of politeness will get you further. It will open doors that sometimes appear to be shut to gringo expats who haven’t learned it yet. It will develop and strengthen relationships. It will make you feel better because you are making others feel better.

Because in reality life isn’t all about us, now is it?

To refuse to learn to adapt to this culture of politeness is to remain in the cynical and pessimistic world where one always demands that his needs be met and to hell with anyone else.

That does not go over so well down here.

So take a tip from the Costa Rica Guy and make your first Spanish lesson be to learn the Costa Rican language of politeness.

And the “palabra mágica” is…

POR FAVOR!


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Costa Rican Culture – Ten Things to Know

March 23, 2016 by Costa Rica Guy Leave a Comment

 Costa Rican Culture - Ten Things You Might Want to Know

Many hopeful Costa Rica expats are interested in knowing what the Costa Rican culture here is like. As with all Latin American countries, Costa Rica is rich in culture and tradition. Of course, the concept of “culture” cuts across all aspects of life.

Based on my observations after living here for some time, here are ten aspects of the Costa Rican culture that you might want to know about.

Note that I have written about many of these cultural aspects in previous blog posts and have included links, where such exist…

1. Ticos are a very peaceful people, except when driving automobiles (or motos, i.e., motorcycles). They are decidedly non-confrontational. Therefore, even if they don’t agree with you, there may be signals that they do. This can, at times, be a bit confusing for expats.

Costa Rican Culture - Ten Things You Might Want to Know

2. As far as Costa Rican food is concerned, the signature “dish” of Costa Rica is gallo pinto, which is a rice and beans mix that is served at breakfast. Also, the “típico” (or traditional) meal served at lunch is called a “casado” and is a “marriage” (hence the name casado, which means married in Spanish) of rice, beans, a meat of choice, platano maduro (or, ripe plantain), salad and potato or yuca, sometimes also served with a fried egg on top.

3. Ticos are very laid-back when it comes to time issues and punctuality. Hence the often heard phrase, “tico-time,” usually used by gringos to refer to the fact that ticos are routinely late.

4. Like all Latin countries, ticos have their own idiosyncratic and colloquial expressions. The two most noticeable are the use of the phrase “pura vida” and the repeated use of the word “mae” in informal conversations. Pura vida literally means “pure life” and is used most often in greetings…such as in the exchange…”como esta?”…response: “pura vida.” Mae is a slang expression, and is used to represent what in English would commonly be replaced with “man” or “dude,” as in “how’s it going, dude?”…”como esta, mae?”

5. Costa Ricans love their music and dance. The most típico (again, traditional) style of dance is the “swing-criollo” style of cumbia that ticos dance in a way that is very unique to their culture. If you ever get a chance to watch a couple who really know their stuff, it can be quite an amazing sight.

6. Ticos are very family-oriented. The country is small, so you are never too far away from extended family members. Family get-togethers are a frequent happening, especially on the weekends. Holidays are always family-centered events.

7. Tico men are not shy at all about expressing the fact that they believe a woman to be attractive. So if you happen to be the object of admiring glances, or “piropos” (flirtatious remarks), it is better to be flattered than offended.

Costa Rican Culture - Ten Things You Might Want to Know

8. A man can be fooled into believing that due to the sensuality and sexiness of the ticas (Costa Rican women) that their attitudes about sex in general are liberal. That can get you into trouble. The normal Costa Rican lady (note, that I am not talking about the ones found in the “Hotel Del Rey”) is quite conservative, even though not shy about dressing and carrying herself in a way that men find irresistible.

9. Ticos are extremely patient people for the most part. I believe they have had to learn that from enduring endless lines at banks and government run monopolies like ICE (the telephone company). They are also known to administer “lessons in patience” when confronted with examples of gringo impatience.

10. Tico culture is for the most part extremely polite and cordial. It pays to learn to hold one’s temper and learn to say please and thank you. A good example of tico politeness is their non-use of the informal form of the personal pronoun you, which in Spanish is “tú,” opting rather to use the more formal “usted.”

I could go on, but I believe the above list represents common aspects of the Costa Rican culture that can help you adapt and have a better experience as an expat in Costa Rica.

Pura Vida!

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